Random Reflections of a CPA turned Stay-at-Home Mom of Three under Four

More Mara-Speak

You know how cartoons always involve classical music? Well, I had a CD playing, when Mara gasped and announced, “This is Ratatouille!”

“Actually, it’s another Beethoven cello sonata. Can you say ‘cello’?” I asked her.

But she shook her head: “I can’t–I’m eating my dinner. I can’t talk when I’m eating my dinner.”

Wow, that’s never stopped you before.

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Mara recounting our weekend retreat:

“But first we went to Mickle-donalds,” she explained. “There are two Mickle-donalds. [She knows about one in the city, and she knows we stopped at a different McDonalds on the way to the mountains.] And they have drinks and stuff,” she added. “And ice cream . . .”

“And chicken and ranch,” I threw in, since she always calls it ‘chicken and ranch’ at home.

“It’s called ‘chicken nuggets,’” she corrected me.

“Yes, Mara, chicken nuggets.”

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Mara, introducing our family to someone she meets at church: “I’m Mara . . . This is my mommy, Becky. Becky,” she repeated, as if the person might not pronounce it properly. “And this is Micah . . . And this is my husband–Daddy!”

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Mara looking at a bell-shaped cookie cutter: “Oh, look, Mommy, the Liber-ree Bell! We went to the Liber-ree Bell with Aunt Mary!”  (I didn’t think she would remember.)

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Hearing Micah’s cries after another unreasonably short nap, I said, “Oh my goodness, tell me he’s not up yet!”

And Mara obliged. “He’s not up yet,” she said to me.

Then calling to Micah’s room, she shouted, “Micah!–you’re not up yet!”

I only wish it were that simple.

Equality, Life Isn’t Fair, and Other Things My Daughter Has Not Yet Learned

If there hadn’t been a Susan B. Anthony, I’m sure someday Mara Joy would have become a household name among those demanding equal rights.

No matter why Micah gets attention, Mara wants equal attention. If we praise him for toddling across the room, she staggers across, imitating him. If we praise him for how he feeds himself, she gingerly lifts her spoon to her mouth, dribbling food down her chin. (Hey–it worked for him!) If we praise him for saying ‘Da-da-da-da,” then . . . well, you can guess what she says (equally loudly). Right now, she is banging a cookie cutter on the wall, her mouth gaping wide, staring blankly at me as she blinks while listening to the sound it makes, because Micah is banging a cookie cutter on the wall, mouth gaping wide, staring blankly at me while blinking and listening to the sound it makes.

Someone needs to learn that life isn’t fair, and we don’t all get equal treatment. . .

Nonetheless, this morning, Mara announced, “I’m going to be drouble!” (This coming after Micah had recently knocked a lamp off an end table, shattering the light bulb, and then opened a drawer, inadvertently discovering, to his delight, a whole package of new light bulbs.)

So, of course, my curiousity was piqued. “Why are you going to be trouble?”

“Because Micah bee-ed drouble!. . . I’m going to get out the light bulbs, and you’re going to say ‘Mawa, don’t be in drouble!’”

Little Explorers

I took a bunch of “outdoorsy” shots of the kids last weekend on the church retreat. For most readers, I’m sure this post screams “MOMMM!!” loud and clear. . .

You will see over a dozen shots of the same two kids playing in the same few square feet of earth over a total of nine minutes while we walked, in the way that only toddlers do, from the main lodge to the house where the nursery was located.

Soooo. . . you have been warned!

And for my family and anyone else dying to see more pics of the kids (or as Mara says, ‘tids’): well, I couldn’t decide which of these I liked best. So here they are!

Enjoy Mara’s incessant chatter throughout the pictures. And Micah’s smile–he’s always happiest outside!

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So We All Got It . . .

We are all sick . . .

I thought I just might squeak by–the whole family sick, but not me!

Ha!

Mara got sick Monday. Micah by Tuesday night. Daniel started feeling it Wednesday, and he was home from work sick today.

Tonight there’s no escaping the reality that I’m now sick too . . .

The thing about getting sick when you’re pregnant (and the SAHM mom of two toddlers) is that life still goes on! You can’t take a sick day, while the kids are still at the day care.

The kids don’t just entertain themselves, knowing how you’re feeling. Pregnancy fatigue doesn’t give you a day off. The groceries don’t buy themselves automatically–and the family still wants to eat! And if you try to rest, the house lays in shambles until you’re well enough to put it back together. . .

After the kids went to bed, Daniel said it was TV night for us. We drank hot tea, popped popcorn, and ate ice cream.

We watched the last episode of last season’s The Office and this season’s premiere. . .

We watched another Burn Notice and the new show Community. . .

You know I’m sick when I agree to a “TV night”!!!!! and now here I am blogging. . .  I should go to bed . . .

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Three little ancedotes:

Lately Mara has asked over and over and over to read her book about going to the dentist. She’s never been to the dentist, but since reading this book, she’s taken a great interest in dentists–and braces.

“See?” she said, through her raisin-filled mouth. “I have braces! See the wires on my teeth?”

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I had to post this picture, primarily for my sister, because I remember us as children using random food pieces for pretend braces . . .

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And . . .  you know you’ve gone wrong somewhere, when your daughter holds up her plate at dinner and says, “Look! It’s a picture of my flam-ah-lee!”

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This morning, when I put her in booktime, I told her, “While you’re in book time, Mommy is going to take her shower and read her Bible.”

“You don’t want to do that!” she exclaimed. “You’ll get the pages all wet!”

Micah at 15 months – Part 2

Micah had his 15-month checkup on Monday. He’s now 22 lbs., 10 ozs.–still in the 25th percentile for weight. Of course his head is still in the 95+ percentile, as always. Even in his final prenatal ultrasound, his head was measuring at 33 weeks, when his body was measuring 31 weeks. His head has always been disproportionately large.

But the news of the day is that he’s finally starting to catch up to the average in height! He’s now 31 inches tall, around the 45th percentile!

The pediatrician confirmed what we thought about his speech.  Basically, he had three questions:

1) Is he “babbling”? Oh, yes!

2) Are you concerned about potential hearing problems?  No.

3) Is he comprehending basic instructions or basic thoughts you say to him? Yes. (See Micah at 15 months – Part 1.)

If he is still not talking by age 2, the pediatrician would recommend a hearing test. If all is well with his hearing, our pediatrician would wait until age 3 before pursuing speech therapy. Boys tend to talk later than girls, and the main issues of concern at this age are hearing and comprehension. Talk to him. Read to him. Insist that he “ask” for things, rather than just giving him whatever he wants to be happy. Give him a chance to talk back.

On a somewhat-related note, Micah is still shy as ever. One story from this weekend’s retreat illustrates this quite well. I will say: This story will be the funniest to those who know both Randy (from church) and our little Micah–unfortunately, that’s only one or two of my readers–but I was laughing soo hard!

My shy little Micah was walking around the main room downstairs after breakfast on Sunday. I was still eating, but sitting only about four feet away from Micah. He walked toward the seat where Randy was sitting, and Randy said an enthusiastic “HI!” to Micah, who stood frozen, staring at Randy.

Micah’s lips puckered and then, after a long moment, began quivering. Half-jokingly, I guess, Randy then said, “I come in peace!”

I knew what would happen next.

Micah began weeping–sobbing, as if he were half-terrified and half-heartbroken.

Randy just looked at him and said, “You should really watch more Star Trek.”

I was dying laughing. I walked over to comfort my shy little Micah-man, who still stood there frozen in fright.

Someday. . . someday, he will grow out of this!!!

But I had a realization last week . . .

This was my little Micah, one year ago today.

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One year ago today, he came off the AB monitor! And when I look at his life over the past few months, my heart is truly filled with gratitude to the Lord.

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Here’s my little man this week!

How far he has come in one year! How different this summer has been than the last! How wonderful to have such simple concerns about our little guy, like “Will his head always be this much bigger than his body?” and “When will he learn to talk?”

Tonight I stumbled across Kaleigh Freeman’s website. . . A beautiful baby girl born June 23, 2008–just 19 days after Micah–weighing only 1 lb. 1 oz. Kaleigh had numerous surgeries and passed away following the surgery that was supposed to be the “final” surgery before she came home. Her parents’ blog chronicles her 11 months of life and their fight for joy in God in the midst of the struggles. Kaleigh didn’t make it to her first birthday, let alone 15 months . . . yes, I cried a lot reading this . . . Daniel keeps telling me I shouldn’t read about other preemies now that I’m pregnant again . . .

But all that to say, I was overwhelmed while reading Kaleigh’s story, with a sense of how gracious God was in allowing Micah to remain in the womb for 32 weeks. Overwhelmed with a sense of how undeserving we are to have the baby that spent only 23 days in the NICU, rather than his entire 11 months. Just overwhelmed by the frailty of life for all of us, and once again, I found a renewed sense of thanksgiving to God for life and breath . . . and for the privilege of caring for perfectly healthy 15-month-old Micah!

Thank you, God.

Where the Baby Is

Today Mara patted my stomach, and suddenly her eyes lit up.

That’s where the baby is!!!!” she exclaimed with “the-light-came-on” inflection.

Yes, at 16-1/2 weeks, I am definitely showing . . . although my husband did point out that most of what’s “showing” is leftover from the last pregnancy, rather than a result of the current one . . . Don’t feel offended for me–I know it’s true–and in time it will come off!!!

But I’ve been holding off on the maternity clothes.

During the first pregnancy, they seem so cute. But by Baby #3, you start to realize that once you put those maternity clothes on, you are wearing them, not just till the end of the pregnancy, but until you slim down enough to fit back into your old clothes. . . Which takes months, almost as long as the pregnancy itself. Which makes the prospect of maternity clothes much less enticing . . .

But during our retreat this weekend, I sat much more than usual (As a SAHM with two toddlers, I’m rarely sitting at home–even during meals). All that sitting made me realize: I really don’t fit in these Gap jeans any more. I’m going to have to break out the maternity clothes!

Thankfully, I have a decent amount of winter maternity clothes from my pregnancy with Micah. So today . . . it’s back to those low-rise maternity jeans from Old Navy . . . For now I can still fit in my pre-pregnancy shirts!!

Our Weekend “Retreat”

We spent the weekend on a retreat with a group from our church. It was a gorgeous, gorgeous weekend. And when you live in the city, there is nothing like a weekend in the mountains near the border of Pennsylvania and New York! While the retreat was slightly challenging for a family with two young toddlers, the kids did have a good time.

Taking toddlers to a new environment, however, requires a great deal of patience on the part of the parents. (Not to say that either of us actually have the required patience.)

For instance, while setting up our room on Friday night, I turned around to see my two children in the bathroom hovering over the toilet. As a mom, I have learned: that is never a good thing!

Mara was whimpering. Micah’s mouth was wide with excitement, as his eyes sparkled.

“Whh,” Mara stammered. “Whhhhhy he throw my shoe in the potty?!?!” She just stared, paralyzed, perplexed.

I ran into the bathroom lunging toward Micah (who, at that point, was reaching his little hand into the toilet) and saw bubbles rising from Mara’s now-submerged leather sandal.

That sandal has seen better days, I thought. Thank goodness summer is almost over.

And it’s a good thing we also brought “fancy shoes” on the retreat! Mara wore those the entire weekend.

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Sunday morning after breakfast, Mara was playing in the main room downstairs with a green toy water gun. A lot of people were milling around, enjoying casual conversation before our first session when one of the other boys about Mara’s age came up and took the gun right out of her hand and ran away.

Mara has not yet learned to handle this well. So she screamed. Loudly.

And as if she didn’t already have everyone’s attention at that point, she began desperately shouting, “I want to shoot some people!”

And when I say “shouting,” I mean the sound echoed through several valleys.

She didn’t say it just once. She kept repeating. Louder. More emphatically. “I want to SHOOT some people!!!!”

You can imagine how you might react at a church retreat, if you hadn’t seen what happened, and suddenly heard this toddler screaming, “I want to shoot some people!!!!”

(We are model parents, I promise.)

So if you’ve never met my daughter Mara, just imagine Fiona from “Burn Notice”–only she has red hair and she’s 2-1/2 and we don’t let her have any real ammunition.

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Discovering Acorns!

We spent the weekend in the mountains at a church retreat, and my kids discovered acorns! And I discovered more acorns in the washing machine after running a load of laundry this afternoon.

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No, I didn’t let him eat it!

They had a great time enjoying the out-of-doors, and I will have several posts this week with more pictures, but for now . . .

I’d better go work on laundry.

And . . .

Micah has his 15-month-old checkup in the morning. . .

Preschool Activity Centers

I’m trying to become more structured before Little Boo comes along, so I’ve made a list of “activity centers” and fun activities (indoor and outdoor) to keep my preschoolers occupied. I figured we will not be getting out as much in the winter (during my 3rd trimester/delivery/adjusting to a new baby) so I am trying to plan ahead so Mara and Micah don’t get bored!

A lot of these activities are taken from a Gymboree’s book Toddler Play (the page numbers reference that book).

This is an ever-growing list, so I would love to receive comments and input from other moms to add to or enhance the activities listed!

Activity Centers Supervised/Unsupervised
Playdoh/clay Supervised
Watercolor Paint/Paint Book Supervised
Coloring w Crayons/Markers/Pencils Supervised
Finger Paints Supervised
Felt Board Stories, etc. Supervised
Trains!! Supervised
Playing with Dolls Supervised/Unsupervised
Puzzles Unsupervised
Dollhouse Unsupervised
Blocks Unsupervised
Daisy & Stacking Cups Unsupervised
Reading Books (Book Time!) Unsupervised
Legos Unsupervised
Shapes to Fit Unsupervised
Cars & Trucks (when he’s older) Unsupervised
Lincoln Logs (when he’s older) Unsupervised
Together Games Inside/Outside Gymboree
Unwrap the gift (favorite toys) Inside p.87
Plastic/Cardboard Tube w tennis balls (Where’d the ball go?) Inside p.96
Magnet fun on a cookie sheet! Inside p.103
Pony Rides Inside p. 111
Pretend “Aquarium” Inside p.117
Scarf Tricks (Throwing, catching) Inside p.118
Phone Fun (Practice talking on the phone with old/pretend phone) Inside p.119
Bean Bag Bowling Inside p.121
Playing Dress-Up (container of clothes/hats/scarves/shoes/boots) Inside p.124
Bathtime for BabyDoll/other doll play Inside p. 126, 142
Memory Game with Magic Cups Inside p.131
Purse Treasures (real stuff that’s ok to play with: old keys, mirror, notepad; wallet; etc.) Inside p.135
Feel & Guess what’s in the pillowcase?! Inside p.136
Matching shoes w their mates Inside p. 140
Wiffle balls threaded on rope between chairs Inside p.144
Flashlight Hide and Seek (objects) Inside p.149
Blindfolded: Guess the Scents?? Inside p.154
Cut & Glue Magazine Pics: Collages Inside p.161
Mimes/Acting: Tea party; Baking a cake; flying an airplane; cleaning house; galloping around on a horse Inside p. 164
Matching colors of cars/trucks on pieces of construction paper Inside p. 166
Dancing w Flying Streamers (Ribbons) Inside p. 170
Sorting shapes; balls & blocks mixed up Inside p. 175
Count and seek (3 or more similar items: cups, shoes, spoons/balls) Inside p. 176
MusicMakers (Plastic bottles w beans, rice, pennies,etc.) Inside p.67
Family Photo Fun (learning, remembering, praying for relatives) Inside p.70
Open Shut Them Inside p. 104
Puppets Inside p.107
Recording voices on the computer Inside p.58
Parachute/Blanket Play Inside
Walk/crawl the pillow course Inside p. 36
Music from the Kitchen Cabinet Inside p.44
Reading Books Inside
Plastic Jars: w interesting items Inside
Mirror Faces Inside p.60
Nesting games (Cups/Bowls/Etc.) Inside p.64
Parade (tie wheeled toys together; decorate w ribbons, streamers) Inside/Outside p.90
Baby Basketball (w bowl/laundry basket) Inside/Outside p.93
Walking on a balance beam (board) Inside/Outside p.106
Pretend “Train Trips” around house Inside/Outside p. 108
Throwing Balls into Water-filled Bowls Inside/Outside p. 145
Jumping & Landing on Target Inside/Outside p. 158
Paper megaphone: learning about tone, direction, volume of voice; amplifying silly songs; etc. Inside/Outside p. 169
Magnifying Glasses Inside/Outside p. 172
Sorting by size: 3 paper bags (S/M/L) and a big pile of leaves Inside/Outside p. 177
Help groom/feed the dogs Inside/Outside p.179
Imitating Animal Sounds/Actions Inside/Outside p. 180-1
Roll the ball/Beach Ball Toss Inside/Outside p. 24, 105
Hide and Seek Inside/Outside p.79
Talk About the Body (Where’s your nose? Etc.) Inside/Outside p.82
Nature Walk & Collage (Find feather, leaves, flowers, grass, sticks, stones, etc.) Outside p.85
Tree Walk/Talk (Leaves, trunks, roots, branches; creatures’ homes; acorns, leaves, pinecones, bark, etc) Outside p.101
Visit PetCo!!!! Find all the animals Outside
Blowing Bubbles Outside
Sand Play (Toys, kitchen utensils; garden tools) Outside