Reflections of a CPA turned stay-at-home mom as I "journey toward heaven"

Then . . . And Now

MicahSleep1Mo013VignetteMicahSleep1Mo016VignetteWhen Micah was first born, I got him a blue Carter onesie that says, “The Cutest.” Actually, I got two: one in newborn size, the other in 12 months. When he was born premature at 32 weeks, it seemed incredibly encouraging to think past the baby stage and to imagine him as a one-year-old little boy. I think buying a 12-month set of onesies gave me a sense of hope and confidence that there really was an end to all the preemie craziness

He’s five weeks old in this picture (but still wasn’t “due” for several weeks) so you can tell this onesie is still a little big for him. This picture reminds me how skinny he was those first few months!

It’s amazing, but somehow he has reached the 12-month mark.

In fact, he’s still wearing this onesie at 16 months. It is awesome to think how much he’s changed and grown.MicahSleep16Mos119Matte

There’s nothing like the peaceful face of a sleeping one-year-old boy to make you forget the havoc he wreaked on your lives earlier that same day–or in his earliest days of life!

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I love ‘im, my little buddy-buddy.

Halloween Costumes

Around this time of year, moms are talking about costumes and how to find what you’re looking for and still save money.

During my first three years as a mom, I have taken a different route every year as far as finding costumes, but I try to strike the balance of finding costumes I really like–while not spending a ton of money. Here are a few options I have tried:

Make your own! The first year Mara was only ten months old. I really wanted her to have a soft, baby-girl costume–I didn’t really want her to be a funky animal or some sort of hotdog with mustard, you know? And the pumpkin idea is cute, but since she had no hair, we were constantly answering the “he?-or-a-she?” question about our baby girl, and I didn’t want to look back at pumpkin baby pictures some 20 years later and say ‘was this our son or our daughter?’

PBKflowerLargeI found the perfect costume in Pottery Barn Kids magazine (I included the PBK picture here)! Naturally it was $59 before tax and shipping & handling. (How is it that I have such impeccable yet unaffordable taste?!) I’m sure some people pay that much for a Halloween costume, but for us it was not an option. I don’t pay that much for my own clothes, let alone a costume a kid is going to wear once or twice!

Still I loved that costume so much that, after seeing it, no other costume seemed to even compare. Friends would find me “flower” costumes other places. None of them were quite right. So I decided to make it myself.

Maras1stHalloweenIn the end, I spent more than I’d hoped (probably close to $20) because I had to buy several kinds of fabrics (3 kinds of fleece and lining fabric for the hood), a zipper, velcro, elastic, gingham trim, thread, and embroidery floss for the flower designs on the sleeves and the bottom of the costume. If sewing were a more regular activity in my life, I’m sure I would have had most of the supplies (other than fabric) on hand. But I was very happy with the end result.

It wasn’t the Pottery Barn costume, but I felt my daughter was beautiful in the flower I had created.

LilStinkers1Buy on Clearance after Halloween for Next Halloween! The second year I actually found the costumes on clearance in February. They were skunk costumes–of all things–but they were 99 cents each, at The Children’s Place. I was pregnant at the time, and didn’t know yet if Micah would be a girl or a boy, but I figured it would work either way. The kids could be the “Lil’ Stinkers.”After all, the experience of having two kids 17 months apart is better reflected in the ‘lil stinkers’ idea than a beautiful flower in a garden!

LilStinkers2dsc09194My husband was mortified that I would do this to our children (I said they were still young enough that it was cute!), but it was with great reluctance that he joined the Lil’ Stinkers and me for Boo at the Zoo. (And, no, my daughter isn’t running from the camera–she’s chasing geese at the zoo–and I’m showing off the back of the 99-cent costume!)

I figured it showed that we didn’t take ourselves too seriously. I mean, come on! Is there any costume that is really “classy”? Is it classy to be a monkey? or a pirate? or a skeleton? or a witch? These are costumes!

With moving twice, being on bedrest, and having a preemie in the NICU, there was no time for sewing costumes of my choice that year. I would make the same decision again in a heartbeat. Plus their costumes cost $1.98 total! You could hardly even make something at home that inexpensively–or find it at a thrift store or a consignment sale. I’m going to try to consign them next year for a dollar or maybe two and make my money back. Then I will feel fully vindicated on the whole skunk costume issue.

Buy Costumes on eBay a Month Ahead of Time. This year, my third year, I couldn’t decide for the longest time. I wanted my husband to be happy, so I decided to get the kids something a little nicer (which is not saying much since I spent only $1.98 the year before!). That’s another story, because when I told him, he said he thought all costumes were kind of tacky and pointless . . . which was my whole point last year . . . but . . . as I was saying . . .

OldNavyKittyI checked eBay for Old Navy costumes and found Mara the kitty costume (new with tags) for $3.50 + shipping. For Micah the lion costume (excellent used condition) for $5.99 + shipping. Total I spent less than $20. Each costume individually costs more than $20 if you buy them directly from Old Navy or Old Navy.com this year. (These costume pictures are just the pictures from eBay. Hopefully after this weekend, I will have some pictures of my kids in these costumes!)

OldNavylion2The trick with buying costumes on eBay is to start bidding in mid- to late-September or very very early October. There is usually a decent selection at that point, and if you’re willing to bid on several auctions (and lose), you will probably be able to find what you’re looking for at a reasonable price. (Those Pottery Barn costumes are always expensive though. I’ve seen sold-out PBK costumes go for $150+ on eBay during the middle of October, so if you know what you’re doing, there is probably some money to be made there!)

Now that we know our next baby is a girl, I already found her costume for next Halloween at The Children’s Place on clearance. It was $3.99 (not quite 99 cents).

It’s not a skunk.

But she will be so stinkin’ cute!!!

And Daddy will love it. :-)

That’s all I’m saying about it now. (I have to save a little surprise for next year!)

Well, several options Work for Me as far as finding Halloween costumes and saving money . . . Find more Frugal Tips at Life as Mom.

When Daddy Comes Home

Things I love about my husband:

When he comes home from work, he is there for the kids!

And I can tell they love it too!

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These are not posed. Just snapshots. (Which, on second thought, I’m sure is obvious, since my son is only wearing a onesie and my daughter’s hair majorly needs to be brushed.)

These pictures could be taken any day of the week (except that my husband is wearing jeans, so it must have been Casual Friday at the office!)

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Probably Mom Should Step In

My 16-month-old son, putting an aluminum cake pan in the microwave.

Right now he is fascinated with opening and closing doors and pushing buttons.

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PS: This was his idea! And yes, I tried to use it as a teaching moment regarding the consequences of putting metal in the microwave.

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Micah-Speak??

Ummm, probably a bit premature . . .

While I haven’t started any “Micah-Speak” posts yet (primarily since the two words he knows are “Dadda” and “Arf”), I should at least mention that he is trying to talk!

After dinner, when I ask, “Are you all done?” Micah will say, “Daw-duh!” (which is basically the same vowel sounds as ‘all done.’

I think he’s trying.

When he signs “please” (actually he signs an convoluted version of “more,” but I accept it anyway as “please”), he now says, “Pllll-thhhh. . .  plllll-thhhhh. . .”  (Unfortunately, in response, Mara has already started talking with a lisp. [Sigh.] We need to start sensitivity training with her. Very soon! . . . The ever-intriguing dynamic of toddlers who are 17 months apart!)

On Monday, I asked Mara if she wanted to take a bath after dinner. Micah started pulling at his overalls as if he wanted to take them off, saying over and over, “Baaa! Baaa!”

I knew exactly what Micah was saying! And that made me happy!

Mom Moments at the Grocery Store . . . and At Home

Last week I found myself once again in the grocery store with two toddlers.

Honestly, it is getting MUCH better! Micah is learning that he has to stay in the shopping cart without fussing (and no, he cannot stand up in the seat!), and Mara rides (or walks beside me) without incident most of the time. In the grocery store parking lot, Mara’s eyes are fixed on the shopping cart selection, hoping against hope that a “little blue car” (with two steering wheels–one for her, one for Micah) will be available.

Well, on this particular day, we did find a cart, but being in the inner-city, someone had removed both steering wheels, rendering the cars, in Mara’s mind, useless.

An elderly man walked by and smiled at the kids. “Are you driving?” he asked cheerfully.

With a doleful expression, Mara shook her head. “Nooo. It doesn’t have a steering wheel.”

Soon enough she cheered up though, when I told her the other option was to ride in a regular shopping cart.

She then began alternately shouting “Prepare to DIE!!!” and loudly singing “YOU are ALWAYS with me, JESUS! Where can I GOOOOOO? Where can I HIIIIIDE?” (from Sovereign Grace’s Awesome God CD).

We made it through my list without incident. Although it was almost noon, so the kids were getting hungrier by the minute.

As I bagged the groceries in the checkout line and tried to watch the cashier ring up each item, Micah kept reaching for everything I put in the back of the shopping cart.

He reached for bananas. He reached for grapes. Ginger snaps.

And suddenly I turned around to see my 16-month-old son sitting there in the shopping cart, holding a pork chop! It happened in just an instant, while my back was turned. Apparently he had reached into the bag behind him, clawed through the cellophane wrap and pulled out the raw meat!

It’s moments like these when you want to grab the raw pork chop out of your son’s hands, look around the store and exclaim, ‘Has anybody seen his mother?!’

People around us were laughing–and, quite frankly, I was surprised how quickly a small child could capture the attention of several checkout lines without making a sound. A Shoprite employee grabbed the meat and offered to re-wrap the remaining portion. Another brought me paper towels doused in hand sanitizer to wipe Micah’s hands.

The cashier said, “I think he’s hungry.”

And as I was leaving, a man a few lines down called out, “Take that boy home and FEED him!”

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As if I didn’t feel sufficiently inept to be a stay-at-home mom after the grocery store episode . . . I dropped the bag holding two dozen eggs on the floor as soon as I got home.

And the casserole that was supposed to bake at 350 for an hour? . . . Somehow it baked at 500 for the first 45 minutes . . . ??

Wow . . . what a day!

Micah and the Lions

Micah is going to be a lion for Halloween! If his costume (which I bought on eBay) ever comes!

And we visited the zoo again today with a group of moms and ladies from our church, so here is a shot of Micah with the lions:

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Light The Candle

For quite some time, Mara and Daddy have had a tradition of lighting a candle when Daddy gets home from work.

It is always super exciting for Mara! She looks forward to lighting the candle with Daddy, and we would never light the candles unless Daddy was actually here to light it. Lighting the candles was very special!

But at some point this summer, our little tradition disappeared–until last week, when Mara asked–as soon as Daniel walked in the door–if he would light a candle.

This time Micah got in on the action. And as you can imagine, he was quite taken with the flame.

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I don’t ever want to forget these special and yet so very ordinary, everyday moments!

When You’re Sick . . .

What could taste better than a popsicle?

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More “Wild Backyard” Fun

A couple weeks back I promised more pictures from “My Wild Backyard” at the Zoo.

Again, my apologies to non-family, as this is another “Mom Post,” complete with Burst Photography’s 3-shots-per-second! (But to family members, especially aunts and grandmothers: you are in for a real treat! If a picture is worth a thousand words, well . . .  there are not enough words–so here are the pictures!)

The kids loved the Wild Backyard. The smiles on their faces make that abundantly clear!

Mara found pine cones.

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Micah enjoys the freedom of walking and exploring . . .

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Micah bracing himself for Mara’s tickles.

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Then they discovered leaves. Wow! . . . who knew leaves could be so captivating?!

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The next three shots are the “burst” kind. But it was hard to fully capture his expression  in just one picture!

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In the middle of our adventure, Micah had a nasty fall and bonked his head on the metal thingy that held the mulch back from the path. I guess it’s kind of hard to see in this picture because of the way the light is shining, but there’s a red spot on his forehead (to the left of the picture) and another on his cheek (on the right). He had quite an ugly bruise on his forehead for almost a week and a half after! Poor little guy!! He is constantly falling and bruising himself . . .

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But as you can see, he bounced back quickly! Once again, exploring the “forest.”

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I think he was “hiding” from Mara. But whenever she came around, he would laugh and laugh.

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Finally, here are two of my favorites of Mara:

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Wish you could have been there!

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